This week we are talking about potty training and bed wetting. Check out what our reader said....
"Hi ladies! I know this is something we've covered before, but I need some help. I've tried keeping it short, but some background will help with the troubleshooting.
Okay, my 3.5-year-old is pretty much potty trained. I started potty training her over a-year-and-a-half ago, and we had a very rough go of it. I made a variety of mistakes early on, but a year ago, I just gave up. I stopped pressuring her to use the toilet, doing what I could to make it a positive experience. Now, she is in underwear and has only a couple accidents a week. (One good thing comes from all this: she can last upwards of six hours between visits to the bathroom.)
I hesitate to call her completely trained because usually she won't take herself; rather, I require her to go before she can get in the van, watch a movie, play with toys, etc. Do I call this potty trained, if she rarely has accidents but avoids deciding for herself to use the bathroom? What more can I do to make her want to use the toilet?
Like I mentioned earlier, bladder control is not an issue. However, a couple times a week, she wets her bed. I know this is normal. We can wake her up to use the toilet, but she screams and cries, and once we make a bargain with her, it still takes her forever to calm down and pee. If she wakes up by herself and we ask her, she refuses. The other morning, she was in my bed cuddling with me, and what does she do but wets in my bed! So what techniques do you use to prevent bed-wetting? Or, is this something I'll have to put up with because of the mistakes I made early on in her training? Is there something I can do to help her want to use the toilet in the middle of the night? Or in the daytime?
I'll appreciate any help I can get."
So help her out. Please address her specific concerns about bed wetting and daytime motivation to use the toilet! We've all been there ladies, so offer up that advice.