Oh man. It feels SO good to be back after almost a two month hiatus. My baby's doing great. (Thank you). She's absolutely adorable, and I love the stinkin' daylights out of that little ball of baby cuteness. I could (and sometimes do) spend way too much time staring at her newborn face.
The topic of this post, however, is a little less warm and cuddly and a little more frustrating.
Seriously. My blood pressure went up a couple notches after just reading the word. I used to think, "My angel baby will never throw a tantrum," and got a little ticked when mothers of older kids would tell me, "Just you wait." But now I know better. EVERY child throws tantrums. Some sooner or later than others, but there isn't a mother alive who's gotten out of dealing with their little precious throwing a fit on the ground.
Now, experts say that a child really doesn't get the concept of "THIS action results in THIS consequence" until age 3. Starting to realize that other people besides themselves have feelings (and are affected by these tantrums) may come even later than that. My boy's two and a half. So far, I'm agreeing with the experts. No matter how many times I dish out the same consequence, the tantrums continue at about the same frequency and intensity. Urg.
The standards responses are:
(1) Get down at eye level and attempt to understand what's frustrating him. This sometimes works, but when he wants something that he can't have, this doesn't usually quell the cries.
(2) Ignore it. No emotional reward, no behavior, right? Ha. I'm not seeing this one work so much, but maybe it will when he starts putting actions and consequences together
So, moms of younger kids...what are your views of tantrums? What sort of good stuff have you read in parenting books on how to deal with it?
And moms of older kids...how do you deal with tantrums without losing your mind? (Sometimes, I seriously have to put my crying boy in his room to get away from the ear-splitting screaming.) What has worked for you?
Let's hear it moms! Your genius advice is officially requested!