Being a parent is hard work. Kids are kids, and sometimes they break things. Sometimes they don't listen. Sometimes they hit their sister. Sometimes they throw a tantrum in the grocery store. They make big messes. They color on the couch. They smear Vaseline all over the carpet. (Personal experience here.) They eat stuff off the floor. They clog the toilet to overflowing right before your dinner guests arrive (here too). Sometimes I wonder if my kids have a sensor to tell when I'm already stressed or running late, and pick those times to misbehave. Adding these stresses onto an already busy life just seems to be too much to handle sometimes. I will be the first to say one of my biggest weaknesses as a mom is staying calm in all situations. I know I'm not the only mom who gets upset and regrets the way she acted. (Tell me I'm not the only one, please!)
I don't want to be the mom that yells are speaks harshly. I don't want to be the mom who is stressed out all the time. I don't want to put the rest of my family in a bad mood when I am unhappy. I want to teach my children how they should treat other people by the example of how I treat them. I want them to never doubt even for half a second that I love them. I want them to see a happy, caring mother, who is forgiving. I understand that no woman is perfect and we can't be expected to be happy and cheerful all the time. But I do believe that my children always deserve to be treated with respect. There are some things that are unacceptable.
How do you do it? In those moments of frustration, how do you keep your cool? How do you remind yourself to be gentle and keep a peaceful home? How do you show your children respect?