This week we are talking about potty training. Check out what our reader said!
"I know we've already done a post on potty training, but I desperately need help. We have been potty training for a 14 months now. My daughter will be 4 in November and still has accidents every day--sometimes 3 times a day. She just kind of piddles in her underwear prior to sitting on the toilet, so most of it goes into the toilet. She never has brown accidents (HOORAY for that!) but can't seem to make it to the potty without damp underwear. If I ask her to sit on the potty, she gives me the hardest time about it and just gets all grumpy. But, if I wait for her to recognize her body's cues, it's too late. I have tried a bathroom tracker with a prize, a penny system, removing "big girl" privileges (such as wearing dress-ups) and even reverted to buying her another pack of diapers just to prove a point. The latter was highly unpleasant for the both of us and didn't really help the situation at all. We have 14 pairs of underwear and I still have to do laundry twice a week. Please help me!!"
I myself have had difficulty in potty training my little girl (who will be 3 soon) and by difficulty I mean we've tried twice and given up (the first time for only about 3 weeks, and the second time for almost two months) and had almost no success (even after 2 months she was still having 2-5 accidents per day and was NOT self initiating, plus she was still having "brown" accidents as our reader so aptly put it). I feel depressed when I hear stories of children potty training so easily and early - I wonder what I'm doing wrong. We all need help in this!
Be sure to address our reader's specific concern with a child who has been at it for more than a year and is still having wet accidents. Also, give us some other general advice if you can.