My son, who is four and a half, likes to go around the house shouting, "expelliarmus!"
Contrary to what you may be thinking, our son has never seen the movie Harry Potter. He is however obsessed with getting to watch it. Between our enjoyment of the books and movies and mentioning that in passing, to posters in the library and stores, to older cousins who may have talked about it, he is convinced that it is the movie to watch. After much pestering, I finally broke down and said that if he could listen to the book and understand what was going on then he could see just the first movie. Well...luckily he hasn't quite made it there yet.
This issue has really been quite a conundrum for me. One minute I think I am being too strict. After all I know many children his age who have seen the movie and others like it. But as I am checking the book out for him, I get some of the most judgemental stares and comments which make my already present doubts loom larger...doubts about whether I am introducing him to media he is not quite ready for...doubts about whether I am doing the right thing.
So...I would like to know what you do. How do you gauge when certain media is appropriate and at what age?
Do your standards change for your younger children as your older children grow up?
What are creative and positive ways you have told your children "no" when it comes to certain media?