Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Do you believe in magic?
I remember when I was around seven, I told my mother that I did not believe in Santa Claus. Thinking I was too young to be a nonbeliever, she sicked my grandmother on me. My grandmother, a wonderful story teller, sat me and my older brother down and wove the magical story of Santa back into our little realities. She was grandma. She never told a lie. We believed again...for a little while longer. Eventually though...we could tell that Santa had the same handwriting as Mom and that was it for me.
Since I have become a mother I have wondered over this topic a lot. Especially since the Easter Bunny just visited our house, I have really wondered if perpetuating these myths, lies, whatever you want to call them is good. How far should I take it? How old should I let my kids believe. I have known some kids to believe until around 12 years old. Is that too long, or do we make our kids grow up too fast by wising them up too soon?
Another friend I have, goes by the motto: "if you believe you receive." Which means that if you don't, you miss out on the presents. So...all her girls, 16 and down just don't talk about not believing although I am sure the older ones don't.
Sometimes I feel like I am lying. Here is this little human being who hangs on my every word to be true and I am talking about these "people" as if they are real when they clearly are not. I even go as far as sneaking around the house to set up everything to look as if this person visited our house and brought us presents. I make sure everything I say never gives him a hint that it is all a lie. It can really be such a production that I also wonder if it is worth it. Hmmmm....I just don't know. I need your thoughts on this.
Do you let "magical people" grace your home? How long? What do you do to keep the fantasy going?
Do you consider it lying or just encouraging imagination?